Nobody Ever Taught You How to Date
Dating well is a skill, and skills can be learned.
Relationship coaching for singles in their 20s through 40s, online across California
Everything Else in Your Life Works
You handled the career. The move across town. The friendships that lasted.
Then there’s dating.
Another app session that ends in nothing.
Another first date where you both agree it was nice and neither of you follows up. Another person who wanted you around but never wanted to date you.
And you can’t explain it to anyone without sounding like you’re complaining.
Why Trying Harder Hasn’t Changed Your Results
You’ve been dating on instinct.
Chasing chemistry. Talking yourself past the red flag you noticed on date two.
Moving fast because it felt good at the time.
Instinct is what got you here.
More effort inside the same approach just gets you tired.
You can learn to do this differently, starting with the next person you meet.
Conscious Dating Gives You a Method
Conscious dating is the difference between dating on autopilot and dating with intention.
It starts with naming your requirements, needs, and wants, so you know who you’re actually looking for.
Then four steps do the work: scouting, sorting, screening, and testing.
That’s clarity, not manipulation.
What Changes When You Have a Plan
The work is practical. We’ll look at what you’re doing now, what it keeps costing you, and what to do instead.
- Spot red flags early, before you talk yourself past them.
- Read signals on a date instead of guessing afterward.
- Move a promising connection forward without rushing or stalling.
- Choose people by fit rather than by chemistry alone.
- Handle conflict while it’s still a conversation.
Your next relationship starts with better decisions, not better luck.
Your Three Phases, Start to Finish
Your History
1
We start with an intake: your dating history, your past relationships, and the home you grew up in.
You learn why you pick who you pick.
Explore Your Story
2
I teach you conscious dating: your requirements, needs, and wants, then scouting, sorting, screening, and testing.
Guesswork becomes method.
Date with a Purpose
3
You date with a plan and bring back what happened. I give you honest, instructive feedback, and we adjust.
Every date teaches you something.
Why Trust Me as Your Partner in Healing
A Psychotherapist’s Training, a Coach’s Job
I spent many years as a psychotherapist before becoming a relationship coach, so we get to the reasons behind your choices instead of trading tactics.
Single a Long Time, and Then Not
My wife and I didn’t meet until I was 50, after years of my own mistakes and years of my own therapy, so none of this reaches you as theory.
A Method With Action Steps
Conscious dating gives you something to do between our meetings, which means the progress shows up in your actual dating life.
Frequently Asked Questions
No. I work as a relationship coach, which means we focus on your dating life, your skills, and your decisions.
The apps are one tool, and we’ll fix how you’re using them. Most of what we work on happens off the app, in how you choose and how you show up in person.
No. Some people start while they’re actively dating and some start during a break, so the plan is ready before you go back out.
You’ll leave the first few meetings with action steps. How fast things shift depends on how much dating you’re doing and what you bring back for us to review.
That’s the part we look at first. Your history and your upbringing say a lot about who you’re drawn to, and that’s where the work starts.
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The Relationship You Want Is Still Ahead of You
Take the First Step Today
You’ve collected plenty of evidence that the current approach doesn’t get you where you want to go.
We’ll start with your history, build a plan you believe in, and adjust it against real dates and real feedback. Bring me the confusion, the almost-relationships, the ones that didn’t click, and we’ll make sense of them together.
It took me until 50. You can get there sooner.
What Happens Next?
- Call (310) 309-7803 or fill out the form on the right.
- Schedule your free consultation. No pressure, no obligation.
- We’ll talk about how conscious dating can help you find a partner you actually click with.
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All information is encrypted and protected under HIPAA privacy laws.
Payments & Services
Services are billed on a session-by-session basis.
We provide superbills for insurance reimbursement and accept HSA/FSA.
No hidden fees – all costs are explained before you begin.
Mike Ames, Licensed Psychotherapist, Certified Relationship Coach